David Tyson Gentry once said: “True friendship comes when silence between two people is comfortable.”
Hence, in essence of friendship or related relationship, do friends need language for their thoughts?
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Using their sense of perception and memory of each other, friends should be able to read each others’ thoughts?
My interpretation of that is two true friends don't have to wonder what the other is thinking because they know each other so well. There should never be an awkwerd silence between two friends. True friends are able to simply enjoy eachothers company.
ReplyDeleteIf they have been friends for a really long time, that they truly understand each other. Then I guess it is possible to communicate by just using memories and perception of each other. Me and my friend have been best friends for a good 15 years now. Most of the time the space between us is filled by silence. There have been instances of when we finish each others thought. To me communicating in such a way is quite possible.
ReplyDeleteYes, that is exactly what I used to think, until recently when someone provoked that idea. So what happens when a distance develops for a very short period of time when compared to the long relation between two friends, and one of them doesn't seem to realize that something is wrong with the other. Should you still expect your friend to realize the change or should you question them by asking if they noticed a change or not? In other words, is communication necessary then or because you think that its true friendship, you should wait for the friend to ask?
ReplyDeleteI do believe that they would need to ask seeing as how the relationship between them may not have fully progressed.So you would have to subtlety ask questions to see if they have notices a change, until it reaches the point where they are true friends. Then again there are friends out there who know each other like the back of their hands and have only been friends for a good week or so. I guess it could just come down to how observant the other person is.
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ReplyDeleteIf the distance developed is because of the problem that one of the friends is facing the friend probably already realizes it but may not feel comfortable in telling you. They may not consider you a close enough friend to tell you whatever's bothering them but this is where the question of true friendship comes in. What is true friendship ? I agree with zoro_philosopher that being true friends is being able to enjoy each others company but if this problem is getting in the way of communicating then the friend should ask. Enjoying another's company without communicating may be possible but Asking questions is part of communication but sometimes one feels (especially women) like the other should understand the signs and take innative in asking the other what's wrong.
ReplyDeleteThat is true, communication plays a major role in being able to create a comfortable environment around you and your friend. It seems there has to be some form of communication in order for the friend to determine if something is wrong without asking.
ReplyDeleteI think it is impossible to know another person's true thoughts. The most you can do is pick up on common traits in thought only because the individua, every so often has displayed those common thoughts. You may say that you know everything about a person but how can you say that when no one can even fully comprehend their own thoughts,without questioning. The way I see it, is if you can't understand your ownself to a full extent, how can you understand someone else?
ReplyDeleteThat is true, there lies the possibility of assuming something is wrong and it happening to be a coincidence that you got it right. But I still believe it is possible to communicate without words. You can look into the eyes of your friend and know something is wrong. The eyes have been said to be the gateway into a persons soul. it just a matter of taking the time to observe the person properly.
ReplyDeleteGood question.
ReplyDeleteI don't interpret that quote the same way you do. I think the author of the quote means that if you're really good friends with someone and you're comfortable with them, you don't need to talk 24/7 about everything. You can just sit and enjoy the silence and not feel awkward.
With that in mind, I agree 100% Friends don't have to chatter with each other all the time. It's cool to just be quiet and enjoy the company of one another. Without mentally contemplating how to fill the silence or what to say next. That to me is a true bond.